Feel calm, confident & connected to your calling in the wake of the storm

sing after the storm^tm group programme

The storm shattered your world but familiar solutions aren't working for you...

I know, I’ve been there. It’s unbelievably hard.

Life storms can be scary, shocking, and come out of left field.

They come in so many shapes and sizes – grief, loss, illness, tough work situations, abusive relationships, estrangement – the list goes on. Whatever life storm you’ve gone through, it is likely to have shaken your world and left you feeling lost, disorientated and disconnected. You look to things which used to help you, comfort you, give you meaning in life – and somehow, they just don’t hit the spot the way they used to.

You may be going through the motions at work, perhaps even suffering burnout as you keep on striving at something that just isn’t working for you any more.

Your mind is struggling – you may well feel sad, anxious and hopeless, and you may develop particular mental health challenges.

Your body is also feeling the strain – this may manifest in aches and pains, tension, or perhaps a chronic condition like insomnia, migraines or IBS.

You feel lost in the world, as if things will never be right again. You’ve followed all the advice you can find about how to foster your wellbeing, but you haven’t managed to discover lasting calm or confidence.

Now, I really get just how busy you are on the hamster-wheel of life, just trying to keep up with the ongoing demands of family/career/life. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day for you to juggle your never-ending To Do list, let alone devoting precious time to looking after yourself. People are depending on you, after all.

You feel deeply tired. It takes all the energy you can muster just trying to keep it all together. Even then, your world feels like it’s literally falling apart.

You’re very scared. The storm shattered your illusion of safety. You’ve tried all the ways you know to feel better, and they’ve fallen short. You’re really not sure if there’s any point trying something else – it’s all been a big waste of time and money so far. And fundamentally, you’re really anxious that you won’t like where this journey may take you – it all feels so alien and unknown.

You wonder if there actually isn’t a way out of the hole you find yourself in. Maybe the status quo will just have to do. Perhaps with the odd sticking plaster when you have a spare moment.

And yet…and yet…when you’re honest with yourself, that prospect is gut wrenching. You have a deep yearning for something more, something satisfying…

And I need you to know, to really hear this next bit – this isn’t your fault. Not at all.

I know you probably have that little voice whispering in your ear that you’re a failure, and everyone else can cope, so why can’t you?…But that’s all lies.

The truth is, the things we’re generally taught in life just don’t equip us for those big life challenges. We haven’t been given a half-decent road map, or the effective tools which can cut through the noise, pain and confusion.

Just close your eyes for a minute and let yourself dream...

what if you could build that bigger, brighter life you so long for?

Imagine if you could have all of this...

Calm

You stabilise yourself in the wake of your storm. You develop a deep inner calm as you make sense of what happened, make peace with it, and let go of what you need to release. You learn to feel safe again in the core of your being.

You wake up feeling peaceful in the morning, looking forward to the day ahead. You’re immersed in the here and now, fully present with what’s going on in your life – not caught up in ruminating about the past or worrying about the future. Stuff happens the way it always does – and you’re able to meet it from a place of peace.

Without all that baggage weighing you down, you can give your wholehearted attention to your loved ones, your work, your hobbies – all the things that really matter to you in your here-and-how life!

Confidence

You forge a new – or renewed – connection with your True Self. However battered you may feel by the storm, your True Self is always there at your core. It represents the very essence of you, and getting in touch with it will rebuild your self-confidence and hope.

You truly believe in yourself, in your abilities, in your judgement – you know what to do next, and you don’t second-guess yourself. Your relationships feel natural and meaningful, and you’re assertive to ask for what you need and want as well as looking out for others.

And you’re excited to show your True Self to the world in all its glory, because this is who you really are!

Calling

You are clear on what you’re really here on earth to do – and it lights you up! Your purpose is bright, bold and undeniably “you”, infused with the new perspective you’ve gained from the storm. And, even better, you are taking concrete steps to bring this dream to life.

Each morning, you get up inspired by your vision, and excited to work on the piece of the dream that’s in front of you. Each piece might seem small on its own, but you know how all your steps add up when you show up consistently day by day.

You literally breathe life into your calling, and it becomes clearer and closer every day!

Crazy though it may sound right now, this is all possible! And this programme is designed to propel you in this direction, so that you are amply resourced to continue your journey after we finish our time together. There will also be the opportunity to join an ongoing membership for continued community and support when the 12 weeks are up.

Hello, I'm Alexandra!

I’m an Author, Musician and Certified Life Coach with particular training in trauma informed work, grief and loss, and emotional freedom techniques (EFT tapping).

I’ve been through more storms than I care to remember. PTSD from a traumatic stay in hospital as a teenager. Devastating long-term insomnia. Two forms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Chronic anxiety that just seemed to get worse over time. Losing my mother too soon to cancer. Very tough work situations. An emotionally abusive and alcoholic father.

That’s a lot of storms for one person. Thin slivers of hope that there had to be a light at the end of this tunnel kept me going. True, the storms left me feeling battered and bruised – but, over time, I also developed a stronger and stronger sense of my true self.

I began to notice a pattern in how we can grow, even after we’ve experienced such devastation. I built my sense of inner calm and confidence, and began to discern the true calling on my life. I gave up my successful London career, trained up in coaching and counselling skills, and built Damsel Not In Distress, a company designed to empower others through their life storms, from the ground up.

So here I am, wanting to help you achieve the same peace and purpose that I’ve discovered. As a result of everything I’ve learned and discovered on my life journey about how we can find our true voice even after the storm, I’ve designed my new group coaching programme, aptly named Sing After The Storm!

Welcome to Sing After The Storm^tm

the 12 week group programme i've designed exclusively to help you

find your voice in the wake of the storm, discover your life’s song & sing it with gusto!

This is a holistic programme underpinned by my SING framework. While everyone’s storm and their journey through it are unique, this framework captures the common steps and themes which emerge: Storm – Ignition – Nerve – Genius.

Here's what's included in the 12-week programme:

Weekly group teaching

You'll get structured teaching each week, covering a suite of topics and techniques to enable you to:
o Build up your wellbeing toolbox, which is tailored to your needs

o Focus on your mind, your emotions, your body, and your spirit

o Build your sense of calm, confidence and calling

You'll have plenty of opportunities to explore and ask questions, and there will be also be workbooks to guide you through key topics. These topics are likely to include countering limiting beliefs, navigating tough emotions, nurturing your body to nurture your mind, and tapping into your intuition - as well as the art of goal setting and changing habits!

As part of the curriculum, you will get access to my existing courses: The Versatile Guide to Journalling, The No-Nonsense Guide to Affirmations, and Nurture Your Body to Nurture Your Mind. Their combined value when sold separately is £99 or $127!

Targeted 1:1 support

A key aim of this programme is to provide you with effective support to emerge from your storm, without the higher price tag of 1:1 coaching. However, we believe some targeted 1:1 support is invaluable.

This is laser coaching! You'll get several opportunities during the programme to interact with me personally through WhatsApp (text messaging and voice notes) - to ask me key questions, and figure out how to deal with whatever is holding you back. In addition, we'll have a monthly live group Q&A session where you can pose questions anonymously if you prefer.

You can also choose to bolt on some 1:1 sessions with me if you'd like further support to reach your goals!

Community

We'll have an online community space where we can hang out and support each other on this journey!

Obviously, it'll be completely up to you how much you want to share about your storm within the group setting.

What do other people say about working with me?

Hannah*

"The challenges I faced were multifaceted when I connected with Alexandra. I was grappling with a sense of hopelessness, compounded by burnout, stress, and physical trauma. Despite attempting counselling and physical physiotherapy, neither seemed to alleviate my physical or mental symptoms.

Working with Alexandra was an unexpectedly comforting journey right from our initial interactions. I’d never received coaching before and uncertain of what to expect, I found myself reserved and hesitant to fully engage. However, Alexandra's approach radiated unwavering support and gentle encouragement, ultimately fostering an environment where I felt safe to open up and explore new avenues.

The outcome of working with Alexandra has been transformative. I've acquired a toolbox of resources to navigate through moments of anxiety or stress. With her guidance, I've overcome barriers I once deemed insurmountable, and now possess strategies to confront challenging situations with confidence.

Alexandra taught me ways to slow down and regain control of my issues and particularly my thoughts around those issues, and I firmly believe I recovered faster that I would have done otherwise."

Catherine*

"I was struggling with childhood trauma caused by emotional abuse by one of my parents. I read Alexandra’s book and immediately felt that she could help me.

Alexandra has been great. She listens, she understands, and provides really useful tools and advice. I’m gradually finding through the courses and the 1-2-1 sessions that I am dealing with past trauma, and am now beginning to heal from these.

I’m rediscovering my self worth and regaining control over my life. Word can’t express my gratitude!"

*Names changed to ensure anonymity

How you can be sure if this is for you

You’re a perfect fit for this programme if:

You believe it’s possible to leave the storm, even if it still rages. Despite your fears, you're ready to take proactive steps, even if you're not sure how
You feel curious about your future and you feel a deep pull to discover the bold and beautiful future that awaits you!
You're excited to participate fully in a new programme and be part of the process of shaping it!

This programme is not a good fit for you if:

You're in the grip of the storm, the storm is in charge and you feel like there's nothing you can do right now to counter it – please do make sure you have a support network in place to help you, including considering professional support from a doctor or mental health professional, who can give you a safe space during a life storm
You don’t feel ready or able to commit time, energy and resources to this journey at this time

If you have a particular mental or physical health diagnosis, you may wish to check with your doctor or healthcare professional whether this programme is suitable for you.

Frequently asked questions

How long is the programme and when does it start?

The programme will run for 12 weeks - we'll start another cohort soon, and the start date will be announced in due course. Don't worry if you're on holiday at any point during the programme - everything will be recorded and available for you to catch up and ask questions when you're ready!

Will I have time to see benefits in my busy life?

I’m so aware how busy we all are in this crazy world – so I’m realistic and I show you how you can put together and implement your personalised Wellbeing Toolbox in a way that works for you and your life. Being realistic, taking steps to thrive after a life storm will take a good amount of attention and commitment, but we'll make it as manageable as possible!

What training and expertise do you have to run this programme?

I’m an Accredited Member of the ACCPH, with a Level 5 Diploma in Nutrition, Health and Wellness Coaching with Well College Global – as well as certifications as a Women’s Health and Wellness Coach and Holistic Coach. I hold a somatic trauma-informed coaching certification from the School of Trauma Informed Positive Psychology, accredited by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). I have completed Level 1 and Level 2 training in Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT tapping), and am a Certified Grief Educator, having completed renowned grief expert David Kessler's certificate programme.

Is this programme suitable for me if I have a mental or physical health condition?

The tools and techniques provided in this programme are designed to be widely applicable. However, the information and guidance we provide is not a substitute for medical advice. If you need medical advice or attention, please consult an appropriate healthcare professional. If you have a specific mental or physical health diagnosis, you may wish to consult your doctor or healthcare professional about whether this programme is suitable for you.

What are my refund rights?

You have a 14-day guarantee on this programme. That means that, if you change your mind within the first 14 days after purchase, and decide this purchase wasn’t right for you, you can request a refund. After that time, you don't have further refund rights, whether you have paid upfront or are paying by instalments. I know from my deep experience of thriving after life storms that it’s so important for you to commit to the process in order to see the results you so deeply crave. Rest assured, I’ll be here for you every step of the way!

What happens after the programme finishes?

I'm aware that the journey out of life storms can take some time and have some twists and turns. This programme is designed to equip you to be able to continue to move forward in a more self-assured manner. But I know that ongoing support is so helpful during that stage of the journey - so I will offer a trial ongoing membership after the programme finishes. We'll have a Facebook group, with a teaching and a Q&A session each month. It'll be £10 a month, cancel anytime. This will be designed to top up your inspiration, give you further ideas, keep you motivated, and provide ongoing community on your journey!