Discover your life’s true calling, in the wake of the storm

Feel Calm, Confident and Connected to your Calling in the next 90 days

The storm shattered your world

but reaching for familiar solutions is no longer working for you

I know, I’ve been there. It’s unbelievably hard.

Life storms can be scary, shocking, and come out of left field.

They come in so many shapes and sizes – grief, loss, illness, tough work situations, abusive relationships, estrangement – the list goes on. Whatever life storm you’ve gone through, it is likely to have shaken your world and left you feeling lost, disorientated and disconnected. You look to things which used to help you, comfort you, give you meaning in life – and somehow, they just don’t hit the spot the way they used to.

You may be going through the motions at work, perhaps even suffering burnout as you keep on striving at something that just isn’t working for you any more.

Your mind is struggling – you may well feel sad, anxious and hopeless, and you may develop particular mental health challenges.

Your body is also feeling the strain – this may manifest in aches and pains, tension, or perhaps a chronic condition like insomnia, migraines or IBS.

You feel lost in the world, as if things will never be right again. You’ve followed all the advice you can find about how to foster your wellbeing, but you haven’t managed to discover lasting calm or confidence.

Now, I really get just how busy you are on the hamster-wheel of life, just trying to keep up with the ongoing demands of family/career/life. There simply aren’t enough hours in the day for you to juggle your never-ending To Do list, let alone devoting precious time to looking after yourself. People are depending on you, after all.

You feel deeply tired. It takes all the energy you can muster just trying to keep it all together. Even then, your world feels like it’s literally falling apart.

You’re very scared. The storm shattered your illusion of safety. You’ve tried all the ways you know to feel better, and they’ve fallen short. You’re really not sure if there’s any point trying something else – it’s all been a big waste of time and money so far. And fundamentally, you’re really anxious that you won’t like where this journey may take you – it all feels so alien and unknown.

You wonder if there actually isn’t a way out of the hole you find yourself in. Maybe the status quo will just have to do. Perhaps with the odd sticking plaster when you have a spare moment.

And yet…and yet…when you’re honest with yourself, that prospect is gut wrenching. You have a deep yearning for something more, something satisfying…

And I need you to know, to really hear this next bit – this isn’t your fault. Not at all.

I know you probably have that little voice whispering in your ear that you’re a failure, and everyone else can cope, so why can’t you?…But that’s all lies.

The truth is, the things we’re generally taught in life just don’t equip us for those big life challenges. We haven’t been given a half-decent road map, or the effective tools which can cut through the noise, pain and confusion.

Just close your eyes for a minute and let yourself dream...

what if you could build that bigger, brighter life you so long for?

Imagine you could have all of this...

Calm

You stabilise yourself in the wake of your storm. You develop a deep inner calm as you make sense of what happened, make peace with it, and let go of what you need to release. You learn to feel safe again in the core of your being.

You wake up feeling peaceful in the morning, looking forward to the day ahead. You’re immersed in the here and now, fully present with what’s going on in your life – not caught up in ruminating about the past or worrying about the future. Stuff happens the way it always does – and you’re able to meet it from a place of peace.

Without all that baggage weighing you down, you can give your wholehearted attention to your loved ones, your work, your hobbies – all the things that really matter to you in your here-and-how life!

Confidence

You forge a new – or renewed – connection with your True Self. However battered you may feel by the storm, your True Self is always there at your core. It represents the very essence of you, and getting in touch with it will rebuild your self-confidence and hope.

You truly believe in yourself, in your abilities, in your judgement – you know what to do next, and you don’t second-guess yourself. Your relationships feel natural and meaningful, and you’re assertive to ask for what you need and want as well as looking out for others.

And you’re excited to show your True Self to the world in all its glory, because this is who you really are!

Calling

You are clear on what you’re really here on earth to do – and it lights you up! Your purpose is bright, bold and undeniably “you”, infused with the new perspective you’ve gained from the storm. And, even better, you are taking concrete steps to bring this dream to life.

Each morning, you get up inspired by your vision, and excited to work on the piece of the dream that’s in front of you. Each piece might seem small on its own, but you know how all your steps add up when you show up consistently day by day.

You literally breathe life into your calling, and it becomes clearer and closer every day!

Crazy though it may sound right now, this is all possible!

Hello, I'm Alexandra!

I’m an Author, Musician and Certified Life Coach with particular training in trauma informed work, grief and loss, and emotional freedom techniques (EFT tapping).

I’ve been through more storms than I care to remember. PTSD from a traumatic stay in hospital as a teenager. Devastating long-term insomnia. Two forms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Chronic anxiety that just seemed to get worse over time. Losing my mother too soon to cancer. Very tough work situations. An emotionally abusive and alcoholic father.

That’s a lot of storms for one person. Thin slivers of hope that there had to be a light at the end of this tunnel kept me going. True, the storms left me feeling battered and bruised – but, over time, I also developed a st ronger and stronger sense of my true self.

I began to notice a pattern in how we can grow, even after we’ve experienced such devastation. I built my sense of inner calm and confidence, and began to discern the true calling on my life. I gave up my successful London career, trained up in coaching and counselling skills, and built Damsel Not In Distress, a company designed to empower others through their life storms, from the ground up.

So here I am, wanting to help you achieve the same peace and purpose that I’ve discovered. As a result of everything I’ve learned and discovered on my life journey about how we can find our true voice even after the storm, I’ve created my 1:1 coaching programme, aptly named SING AFTER THE STORM!

Welcome to the Sing After The Storm^tm 90-day 1:1 intensive

my signature 1:1 coaching programme designed exclusively to help you

find your voice in the wake of the storm, discover your life’s song & sing it with gusto!

This is not just a few coaching sessions. This is a holistic package and a safe space where we’ll work closely together to cultivate your inner calm and confidence, and identify your calling and how to bring it into reality!

And it’s all underpinned by my SING framework. While everyone’s storm and their journey through it are unique, this framework captures the common steps and themes which emerge: Storm – Ignition – Nerve – Genius.

Here’s what’s included in the programme:

Initial 90-minute 1:1 Activating Session

This is a deep dive into where you are now and where you really want to be!

We build your personalised SING Blueprint for the journey ahead, including how to develop your very own tailored Wellbeing Toolbox.

And we take those crucial initial steps to foster your inner calm and confidence.

Unlimited access to my library of on-demand training courses

These courses will support you all the way as you move forward with your SING Blueprint and Wellbeing Toolbox. You’ll develop a range of practical wellbeing tools, understand why they work, and get down-to-earth tips for how to make those tools work in the real world. There are bite-sized videos you can watch to fit around your busy schedule, and you’ll have beautiful workbooks to guide you through the process!

The library currently includes: The Versatile Guide to Journalling, The No-Nonsense Guide to Affirmations, and Nurture your Body to Nurture your Mind!

Unlimited messaging with me throughout

This is a magical part of the package, it’s like having a coach right there in your back pocket!

How does it work? Simple! You drop me a written message or voice note with your latest question, and I’ll reply as soon as I can. We’ll use a simple app like WhatsApp or Voxer. This supports you to keep moving forward day by day, to quickly remove obstacles you’re facing, and to share insights as they emerge for you! All of this builds a true sense of connection, momentum and accountability as your new reality unfolds.

(On a practical note, I’m around Monday to Friday but don’t guarantee to answer messages at the weekend – just practising what I preach about the importance of down time!)

Five one-hour 1:1 sessions

Here’s where we can go deeper on the ongoing topics we’ve been discussing, and I’ll support you to unblock obstacles, build momentum on your journey and explore new ideas.

You’re in the driving seat with these sessions – you get to decide when we do these within the three-month timeframe. This allows you to set your own pace as we journey forward together. Some of my clients want to make quick progress, and have the space in their life to do that – so they may choose weekly sessions during the first six weeks, and then benefit from ongoing messaging accountability and support for the remainder of the three-month period.

Others prefer a steadier timetable which fits around their hectic lifestyles. The only constraint is that you need to use all your sessions before the 90-day period is up – and this is really just to ensure that you properly commit to the process. Beyond that, it’s up to you!

What do other people have to say about working with me?

Hannah*

"The challenges I faced were multifaceted when I connected with Alexandra. I was grappling with a sense of hopelessness, compounded by burnout, stress, and physical trauma. Despite attempting counselling and physical physiotherapy, neither seemed to alleviate my physical or mental symptoms.

Working with Alexandra was an unexpectedly comforting journey right from our initial interactions. I’d never received coaching before and uncertain of what to expect, I found myself reserved and hesitant to fully engage. However, Alexandra's approach radiated unwavering support and gentle encouragement, ultimately fostering an environment where I felt safe to open up and explore new avenues.

The outcome of working with Alexandra has been transformative. I've acquired a toolbox of resources to navigate through moments of anxiety or stress. With her guidance, I've overcome barriers I once deemed insurmountable, and now possess strategies to confront challenging situations with confidence.

Alexandra taught me ways to slow down and regain control of my issues and particularly my thoughts around those issues, and I firmly believe I recovered faster that I would have done otherwise."

Catherine*

"I was struggling with childhood trauma caused by emotional abuse by one of my parents. I read Alexandra’s book and immediately felt that she could help me.

Alexandra has been great. She listens, she understands, and provides really useful tools and advice. I’m gradually finding through the courses and the 1-2-1 sessions that I am dealing with past trauma, and am now beginning to heal from these.

I’m rediscovering my self worth and regaining control over my life. Word can’t express my gratitude!"

*Names changed to ensure anonymity

How you can be sure if this is for you

You’re a perfect fit for the SING AFTER THE STORM 90-day 1:1 Intensive if:

You know that you don’t want your storm to define your life
Despite your fears, you know deep down that you need to find the courage to reclaim your inner calm and confidence in the wake of your storm
You feel curious about your future and, again despite your fears, you feel a deep pull to discover the bold and beautiful future that awaits you!

You’re not ready for the SING AFTER THE STORM 90-day 1:1 Intensive if:

You’re still in the middle of your storm – please do make sure you have a support network in place to help you, including considering professional support from a doctor or mental health professional, who can give you a safe space during a life storm
You honestly don’t yet believe that change is possible – this is totally understandable, but this perhaps also indicates that you would benefit from talking to your doctor or mental health professional
You don’t feel ready or able to commit time, energy and resources to this journey at this time

details about cost

The cost of this package if paid upfront is £900 / $1,200. There is also an option to pay in instalments.

I am also happy to discuss variations to the package - for example, if you wish to consider a different duration or more frequent 1:1 meetings.

I want you feel confident to invest in yourself

You have a 14-day guarantee on the SING AFTER THE STORM 90-day 1:1 Intensive. That means that, if you change your mind within the first 14 days after purchase, and decide this purchase wasn’t right for you, you can request a refund. We’ll only deduct the cost of any 1:1 sessions we’ve already held together, and any on-demand courses you’ve watched.

I want to you to feel safe – however, I also know from my deep experience of thriving after life storms that it’s so important for you to commit to the process in order to see the results you so deeply crave. Rest assured, I’ll be here for you every step of the way!